Reasons why we get stuck

There are a zillion articles on how to last longer. Relaxation tips, helpful positions, body awareness, deep breathing, mental focus… and a lot of the advice is good.

Asking Google how to last longer in bed

So if the answers are out there, why is PE a recurring problem for so many men? What gets in the way of putting this advice into practice? Why do we retreat from sex, going against our desires and causing conflict, confusion and awkwardness?

If you’ve tried to work on your PE but are feeling stuck, keep the faith. These stories, based on real clients, explain the most common reasons why and how to overcome them.

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Reason #5: Interoception and the point of no return

When Joe tried to hold in his orgasms, he was destined to fail messily. Instead, he learned how interoception can hugely help with premature ejaculation.

Couple in a communication void

Reason #4: Faking and pretending in a communication void

He pretends that he didn’t ejaculate early, she pretends that she had an orgasm. Sounds familiar? Learn how to break up this frustrating routine without breaking up.

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Reason #3: Over-kegeling

A strong PC muscle can help with premature ejaculation, so do your kegels. But avoid this common mistake, or you might find yourself ejaculating sooner.

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Reason #2: Frenetic thrusting

Coming too fast but can’t slow down? It’s a common habit for guys with PE performance worries. Understand how to stay hard and in control.

Lucky charm optimism

Reason #1: I’ll last longer this time

Be positive about overcoming your premature ejaculation. But don’t fall into the trap of positive avoidance; you also need a plan.