In my therapy practice, I have conversations with men about premature ejaculation.
And from these conversations, I’ve noticed a few things:
- Men are natural problem-solvers, so they seek out advice online.
- A lot of the advice out there isn’t helpful. Clickbait and misinformation. Pointless herbal supplements. Trojan 3000 cream. Jock Cockmaster’s Ultimate Guide to Banging Her All Night Tonight. Call me cynical.
- Men follow this advice with the very best of intentions.
- They feel increasingly hopeless and frustrated when it doesn’t work.
To try to remedy this situation, I started blogging. Based on my training and research, I wanted to put out true medical facts, proven techniques and get this whole thing into perspective.
Clients found it helpful and the Bang On Time project was born.
- To open up the conversation about premature ejaculation, free from embarrassment and cringe.
- To provide clear guidance on building your sexual confidence.
- To support men and their partners in fully embracing their sexual selves.
Who is behind the project?
I’m Jason Dean, a psychotherapist working in the UK. Drawing upon sexological understanding and Human Givens therapy, I take a holistic approach to overcoming premature ejaculation. Any questions or comments are welcome.
Four reasons why this exists:
1) Through my work with clients, and my own personal experience, I know that sexual performance is a big deal. Whether we’re aware of it or not, much of our self-confidence and identity is rooted in how we perceive ourselves as sexual beings.
If you go around telling yourself that you’re crap in bed, you are limiting your life experience. It doesn’t have to be like this.
2) It’s increasingly common for men to be prescribed antidepressant medication for their PE. Pills can be helpful as part of a broader strategy, but they are not the solution. I’m not sure that guys are always made aware of this and all the other caveats around SSRI medication.
I know, I know: pills are cheaper and more convenient than seeing a therapist. But if legitmate therapy was available online, that would be awesome wouldn’t it?
3) When I bought the UK’s leading sex therapist’s book about premature ejaculation, it pretty much said this: get very good at foreplay. Now foreplay is all well and good, but there’s plenty more that can be done to improve our performance in the sack.
4) Why not be your best sexual self? It’s nothing to be embarrassed about. Sexual confidence is an acquired skill just like anything else, and we’re all capable of mastering it.
If I can motivate you to follow the steps and experience this for yourself, then all my effort studying hip-thrusting dynamics and seminal expulsion will have been truly worthwhile.
Just send me a postcard when you reach sexual nirvana.
Ready to begin? Here’s a handy primer on the reality of ejaculatory control:
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